Myths Regarding Marriage ~ Andre Eka Wardara

Many myths still evolving and is now believed to society. One of them, the myths surrounding the wedding. Marriage is not a passing of a life. Indeed, this is the beginning of real life. Therefore, make no mistake in living simply because of the influence of misleading myths that relationship. Here are some of the myths surrounding the wedding leaked, as written Womansday.
Marriage would make a person change
Just as with a sofa that can not be used, then she will soon be sold. Couples too. Surely he was aware when he has to change. However, this does not mean that everyone can change or you can change a person as you wish.For example, if he has a bad habit that you hate, this trend will not be changed by her love to you alone. Everything would need a process and the support from you. So please be patient for a while because over time, you can adapt to the habits of each and talk about it. One way to discuss these habits is to have a dialogue back and talk heart to heart, so that you both do not engage clash of ideas and find solutions to menengahinya wise.
Once you are married, life processes have been completed
Personality will continue to proceed in a lifetime. Not that when you find the plain wedding, then the task was completed. This myth can make the stalled growth and endanger the health of your marriage. So when you avoid doing something new for fear couples will change, then you will not love each other anymore. And by doing new things, your marriage increasingly rich and colorful.
Married couples should have the same interests
Many couples believe if their partner to enjoy something, they also need to try to get the same thing. This is a poor incentive to bond together because even though, does not mean you force yourself to do everything together. The important thing to remember is there is no rule that says you have to spend every moment together. Even for a fabric of a healthy relationship, you can enjoy several activities apart from one another so that they feel more "fresh". In addition, make sure you find and nurture the things you both like, so it can spend quality time together.
The husband should be your best friend
How much more love songs that can mengeskpresikan that couples should be everything to each other? Yes, the husband is the number one person in your life, but he's not the only one.
Marry because of sexual needs
This is just a myth that makes you lose the passion and unfettered one another. The truth is that sex should always be passionate, wild, and the new. Getting married for sex just because you are creating monotony constrained by a requirement alone. So why not be free, more confident and secure, thereby causing the connection is established with a maximum.
Married keep you glued to housework
Married instead imposes liability on one shoulder. For example for household chores and just stare at the wife's affairs is the responsibility of making a living husband. Marriage is a synergy of both partners. As a workaround, you also need to share equally the household chores. For example, if the wife does the job of cleaning and cooking, then the husband can mow the lawn once a week. A proportional division of tasks is not it?
The presence of your baby and your partner make more intimate
It's hard to believe that you have children, then the relationship will be more intimate and harmonious. Because the activity of each of which is often too busy to make you both arguing about child care. In order to maintain intimacy after baby's presence, then the set of rules to do with parenting and family time set aside in your busy schedules. This could be preserved its unity is maintained.
If the wife take the fight, then the divorce would threaten
It is true that if you take the fight and never solve the problem, then your relationship is in trouble. However, debate or dispute in marriage is not a leading indicator of marriage. If you have a complaint that needs to be expressed, then feel free to talk about both. Avoiding communication or belittle your partner will only harm the relationship. So, make the ground rules for the continuity of your relationship.
Arguing with your in-laws will make hostile
If you are sure will be involved feud with the parents of the husband, then set the relationship from the beginning. Remember that love is building a comprehensive nature. You do not have to love your husband alone, but also his family. So, identify your in-laws and do not make more of themselves as potential enemies. Consequently, when the mother-in-law always brings the dish into the house, then avoid the assumption that you are labeled a wife who could not spoil him. Instead, try to understand that he is trying to extend his help by providing dishes that you can relax for a moment.
Love and affection on the wedding day is the culmination of everything, and after that it will decrease over time
Marriage is not the end of everything. When the happy day held, radiant love of the couple is very pronounced. However, marriage is just one day of my entire life. The trip actually began at the following days. More and more intimacy were missed in the way of marriage, the bonds of love even stronger.